One of the things that I started to play with in 2006 was my own reality. I would have holiday events with family. I decided before going to the event that I would not focus on old history of the player and their personalities. I would approach them as though they were a clean slate.
What I found is that when I approached them without prejudgment they responded better and our interactions were more positive. We started to have adult conversations and history started to slip away.
By the end of the evening, the people that had previously attacked me openly were now attacking new prey at these events.
I got to be the observer of this sophisticated play and enjoy the show instead of having to participate in it. This is also in "The Course of Miracles" book. I've never been drawn to read it, but then I like to do my own thing a lot.
I am enjoying my new reality with my family. It has less drama and conflict. I'm not excusing the people that behave in this destructive manner. I'm just not having to engage them as much. Next time your a little bored, you might want to give it a try. I had tried this for more than three years at these events.
I also found that other people couldn't stand some of the Drama queens at these events either. My life is getting less stressful bit by bit. I have tried this in the corporate arena as well.
This is one way that I'm usually able to bridge gaps in an organization. I come into the organization with a clean slate. I approach the departments that I'll have to work with the same courtesy. I don't listen to whose the villain or prejudge the players of the departments. I judge them from my experience with them on a daily basis. That doesn't mean there wont be jerks or bullies in the work place.
I've had a pretty successful track record on getting the departments to work well across the organization. That's one of the things that I'm the most proud of.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
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Sunday, April 6, 2014
Sunday, March 2, 2014
Fragmenting of the Soul
When a soul is so fragmented from past and present life trauma it takes more than soul retrieval to make it whole again.
The pieces can be put back together again yes, but the damage that caused the soul to fragment in the first place must also be healed.
The anger from that trauma needs to be addressed and allowed to flow. It is by allowing the anger to be just that, that the healing starts to take place and small or large pieces of the soul are allowed to heal.
When we suppress the anger it makes the situation worse, it makes the pain linger longer than is necessary.
Some times talk therapy with a trained therapist can help.
It is only when we stop judging our actions and feelings from the past as wrong.
That we can finally begin to heal.
It's like yelling at a young child to stop crying and making the situation worse.
By allowing our emotions to be, that we start to have a greater understanding of our soul and our selves.
We stop judging ourselves and allow our selves to just be.
If we are unable to make the changes in our lives that we wish to see; there is nothing wrong with seeking outside help from a therapist to help us.
Sometimes people grew up in families where mind games were always used. Making it next to impossible for them to properly read or gauge a person's actions or motives.
Making it hard to trust anyone and further alienating themselves from society.
Where what feels normal to them is not normal to others and a clue that a person can't be trusted.
This can be very frustrating for anyone trying to heal from abuse. Especially when they are trying to break abusive cycles.
Sometimes they will meet people that are meant to be teachers to these people and sometimes these people are meant to be the teachers to others. Other times as your teaching someone you are learning from their experiences. The answers for others are sometimes the answers for yourself and your meant to listen as well.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
Saturday, January 11, 2014
Empaths
One of the most draining thing is to be surrounded by people that feed off of other people's energy.
They tend to leave people that are empaths needing to take a break from humanity in order to recharge.
Some not all of these types are usually extroverts that are the energy vampires. Jobs like customer service and sales are usually not the best jobs for empaths since they will only last a short time in those fields. Empaths usually will burn out from this kind contact with the public in 6 to 9 mos.
Empaths usually do better in jobs that they can do solo or remain with others like themselves. They can be mistaken for being introverts when they are in a group since they tend to act very social. They usually hang out in such fields as technology since they are naturals at reading energy.
They do wonderful in the healing arts where it is holistic healing or alternative medicine. They use they're senses to feel energy around their clients. Feng Shui is another way empaths can feel the energy of their clients home to determine part of what is wrong energetically.
More and more of them are being born in the 21st century. They can read energy and feel energy that is rolling back from the future to the present. These are some of their skills.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
They tend to leave people that are empaths needing to take a break from humanity in order to recharge.
Some not all of these types are usually extroverts that are the energy vampires. Jobs like customer service and sales are usually not the best jobs for empaths since they will only last a short time in those fields. Empaths usually will burn out from this kind contact with the public in 6 to 9 mos.
Empaths usually do better in jobs that they can do solo or remain with others like themselves. They can be mistaken for being introverts when they are in a group since they tend to act very social. They usually hang out in such fields as technology since they are naturals at reading energy.
They do wonderful in the healing arts where it is holistic healing or alternative medicine. They use they're senses to feel energy around their clients. Feng Shui is another way empaths can feel the energy of their clients home to determine part of what is wrong energetically.
More and more of them are being born in the 21st century. They can read energy and feel energy that is rolling back from the future to the present. These are some of their skills.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Friday, November 29, 2013
Projects Forgotten
The other day, I finally had a chance to start going through some papers. As I went through more and more papers. I found some of my writing for a another idea for a story.
It's kind of like a treasure hunt of your dreams that are waiting for your to pick them up and dust them off and to continue where I left off. Or to take it in another direction.
Sometimes we find that we've out grown these projects. Sometimes these projects are just waiting for us to rediscover them and cherish them for what they are?? They are our dreams!
They are an extension of ourselves and a creation waiting for the world to see in the future!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
It's kind of like a treasure hunt of your dreams that are waiting for your to pick them up and dust them off and to continue where I left off. Or to take it in another direction.
Sometimes we find that we've out grown these projects. Sometimes these projects are just waiting for us to rediscover them and cherish them for what they are?? They are our dreams!
They are an extension of ourselves and a creation waiting for the world to see in the future!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Friday, September 27, 2013
Businesses
Right now some of the biggest Con's are being spun. Large Corporations get tax breaks for providing their employees with Health Care coverage and get volume discounts on that coverage. They even get tax breaks for retraining their employees. These are all things that are offered by our Government and you and I pick up the tab for this.
Small business can be a company that Makes as much as the low millions. It's all about perception and how you spin it. A lot of small and middle size companies don't qualify for some of these same benefits because they don't have enough employees.
It's interesting how the Media can spin things to make you think that those poor Goliath businesses just can't compete with these small businesses. When nothing could be further from the truth. A lot of those Goliath businesses are out sourcing as many of their jobs to ensure that the management can get a large bonus for saving the company money and making huge profits for the share holders.
The problem comes in when the Government that has allowed this to happen still expects the people that live in that country to continue to pay taxes at the same rate as the previous years. It's economic suicide, when you have less money coming in everyone feels the pinch.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Small business can be a company that Makes as much as the low millions. It's all about perception and how you spin it. A lot of small and middle size companies don't qualify for some of these same benefits because they don't have enough employees.
It's interesting how the Media can spin things to make you think that those poor Goliath businesses just can't compete with these small businesses. When nothing could be further from the truth. A lot of those Goliath businesses are out sourcing as many of their jobs to ensure that the management can get a large bonus for saving the company money and making huge profits for the share holders.
The problem comes in when the Government that has allowed this to happen still expects the people that live in that country to continue to pay taxes at the same rate as the previous years. It's economic suicide, when you have less money coming in everyone feels the pinch.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Wednesday, August 14, 2013
Good Fortune
We see changes when we are on the right path. Our pets are more playful, and other things in our life start to fall into place. It's like a giant road opener! Sometimes its just doing one thing. Here's the trick, if you can't figure out where to begin. Just try a step in different areas of your life til you notice a change.
At different times in our life, different areas of our life need attention.
Sometimes its our health.
Other times its our career or home life.
Sometimes we need a life makeover.
When we start taking out the garbage in our lives, we start to see changes.
Bit by bit we start to see the changes.
Then come the bigger gifts.
Sometimes its money that starts to come in at all the right moments.
Finding the right clothes that we've been searching for.
Or getting rid of the people that cause us stress.
When we actually participate in our lives.
The changes are huge!
New people enter our lives that treat us better.
New opportunities open up in our career.
We find co-workers that we like.
Environments that are suddenly healthy.
Serving TwinCities Area:
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
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Saturday, June 15, 2013
When A Healing Doesn't Work
It's very interesting when a healing doesn't work. Here's the thing, everyone has free will. If a person wants nothing to do with the healing, you can't shove it down their throat. A lot of times there are payoffs to an illness or disability.
People get more attention and don't have to take responsibility for living their lives when there is an illness or disability. It's like they're saying see you have to stay, you can't leave me. I can't take care of myself instead of seeing it as an opportunity for growth to concur challenges and allow their souls to grow.
Some people were disabled before their disability ever showed up. They refused to even participate in their lives. They used drugs as an excuse to avoid living. I've seen parents that are Nurses and Therapist do this to their own kids where they teach them that they aren't capable of making choices by themselves. Every chance the Universe gives their children an opportunity to learn and grow so they can become independent adults in the future. The parents rush in and make the decisions for them without even asking.
The big problem with this is that the problems get harder and harder. The lessons that these children would have learned to problem solve and build on their development has been taken away from them by a selfish and self serving adult. Think I'm being a little harsh here! These children might have been great leaders if someone would have let them try to solve their own problems instead of rushing in.
These parents need to learn to back off. You can tell your children that if they ever have a problem that you will be their for them. You can run a couple of choices on how to handle a problem. IF ASKED! Here is the Key! You need to tell them that you can offer them choices if they ask for help! Again, you are not here to make those choices for them! Do you really want to put a child in a bigger problem then they're ready for?
By allowing them to learn how to handle their own problems, you are preparing them for life.
An illness can be a way to slow someone down so they start taking care of their body and health. Some people are always on the run, they never take time for themselves. Then wonder why they got taken out by a heart attack. Cancer and tumors are wake up calls for us to start getting serious about our passions. Life is not meant to be some form of sick torture. If you have an unhappy marriage, do something about it. If you hate your job, take baby steps to find something that you love.
Serving the Twin Cities Area:
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
People get more attention and don't have to take responsibility for living their lives when there is an illness or disability. It's like they're saying see you have to stay, you can't leave me. I can't take care of myself instead of seeing it as an opportunity for growth to concur challenges and allow their souls to grow.
Some people were disabled before their disability ever showed up. They refused to even participate in their lives. They used drugs as an excuse to avoid living. I've seen parents that are Nurses and Therapist do this to their own kids where they teach them that they aren't capable of making choices by themselves. Every chance the Universe gives their children an opportunity to learn and grow so they can become independent adults in the future. The parents rush in and make the decisions for them without even asking.
The big problem with this is that the problems get harder and harder. The lessons that these children would have learned to problem solve and build on their development has been taken away from them by a selfish and self serving adult. Think I'm being a little harsh here! These children might have been great leaders if someone would have let them try to solve their own problems instead of rushing in.
These parents need to learn to back off. You can tell your children that if they ever have a problem that you will be their for them. You can run a couple of choices on how to handle a problem. IF ASKED! Here is the Key! You need to tell them that you can offer them choices if they ask for help! Again, you are not here to make those choices for them! Do you really want to put a child in a bigger problem then they're ready for?
By allowing them to learn how to handle their own problems, you are preparing them for life.
An illness can be a way to slow someone down so they start taking care of their body and health. Some people are always on the run, they never take time for themselves. Then wonder why they got taken out by a heart attack. Cancer and tumors are wake up calls for us to start getting serious about our passions. Life is not meant to be some form of sick torture. If you have an unhappy marriage, do something about it. If you hate your job, take baby steps to find something that you love.
Serving the Twin Cities Area:
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.facebook.com/ravenhawkellcusa
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
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