Creating Your Own Stage

One of the things that I started to play with in 2006 was my own reality. I would have holiday events with family. I decided before going to the event that I would not focus on old history of the player and their personalities. I would approach them as though they were a clean slate.

What I found is that when I approached them without prejudgment they responded better and our interactions were more positive. We started to have adult conversations and history started to slip away.
By the end of the evening, the people that had previously attacked me openly were now attacking new prey at these events.

I got to be the observer of this sophisticated play and enjoy the show instead of having to participate in it. This is also in "The Course of Miracles" book. I've never been drawn to read it, but then I like to do my own thing a lot.

I am enjoying my new reality with my family. It has less drama and conflict. I'm not excusing the people that behave in this destructive manner. I'm just not having to engage them as much. Next time your a little bored, you might want to give it a try. I had tried this for more than three years at these events.

I also found that other people couldn't stand some of the Drama queens at these events either. My life is getting less stressful bit by bit. I have tried this in the corporate arena as well.

This is one way that I'm usually able to bridge gaps in an organization. I come into the organization with a clean slate. I approach the departments that I'll have to work with the same courtesy. I don't listen to whose the villain or prejudge the players of the departments. I judge them from my experience with them on a daily basis. That doesn't mean there wont be jerks or bullies in the work place.

I've had a pretty successful track record on getting the departments to work well across the organization. That's one of the things that I'm the most proud of.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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