How Far I've Come

 Last year at this time, I don't think I would have believed all that I've accomplished. Life sends us tests; it's just a matter of will you be up for the challenge. This is why; I'm a firm believer in allowing each person to figure things out at their own level.

When you solve something at a more advanced level for someone else the universe will give them a harder test. The problem comes in when you're always trying to save another person and not trusting that they will be able to solve it on their own and are actually stealing a victory from them.

Now at this time, I'm starting to feel more normal for the next smaller challenges. Sort of like it's a bit of house cleaning on some projects. I've still got some irons in the fire, but the stress in winding down. I think it's always the journey and not the destination that's the focus. It stretches and makes us stronger to handle more difficult challenges when they come along.

I look back at all the things that I've dealt with and the different twists and turns that my life seen. The journey hasn't been boring. There has been occasional stress with learning new things. Now for the next journey to see if it removes more obstacles. Life is sometimes like little breadcrumbs, only sometimes you need a flashlight to see those breadcrumbs.

Penny J. (MN, USA)

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When A Healing Doesn't Work

It's very interesting when a healing doesn't work. Here's the thing, everyone has free will. If a person wants nothing to do with the healing, you can't shove it down their throat. A lot of times there are payoffs to an illness or disability.

People get more attention and don't have to take responsibility for living their lives when there is an illness or disability. It's like they're saying see you have to stay, you can't leave me. I can't take care of myself instead of seeing it as an opportunity for growth to concur challenges and allow their souls to grow.

Some people were disabled before their disability ever showed up. They refused to even participate in their lives. They used drugs as an excuse to avoid living. I've seen parents that are Nurses and Therapist do this to their own kids where they teach them that they aren't capable of making choices by themselves. Every chance the Universe gives their children an opportunity to learn and grow so they can become independent adults in the future. The parents rush in and make the decisions for them without even asking.

The big problem with this is that the problems get harder and harder. The lessons that these children would have learned to problem solve and build on their development has been taken away from them by a selfish and self serving adult. Think I'm being a little harsh here! These children might have been great leaders if someone would have let them try to solve their own problems instead of rushing in.

These parents need to learn to back off. You can tell your children that if they ever have a problem that you will be their for them. You can run a couple of choices on how to handle a problem. IF ASKED! Here is the Key! You need to tell them that you can offer them choices if they ask for help! Again, you are not here to make those choices for them! Do you really want to put a child in a bigger problem then they're ready for?
By allowing them to learn how to handle their own problems, you are preparing them for life.

An illness can be a way to slow someone down so they start taking care of their body and health. Some people are always on the run, they never take time for themselves. Then wonder why they got taken out by a heart attack. Cancer and tumors are wake up calls for us to start getting serious about our passions. Life is not meant to be some form of sick torture. If you have an unhappy marriage, do something about it. If you hate your job, take baby steps to find something that you love.

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Penny J.

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