One of the biggest reasons people should adult up, is to be able to survive different situations that LIFE might throw at you! In our world, there is domestic violence, mental abuse to both children and adults alike. Sad, but this is our reality! The abuse thing cuts through all social classes. Some bruises, might or might not be visible.
One must have skill in this tool box of personal knowledge would be learning about money. By learning how to handle money, an education that is not taught in any school that I know of. Bookkeeping would be the closest to money skills that I know of; and I would personally look at that as a foundation. The best place to learn some of these skills would be a library.
Another must have skill would be Law. Some schools have this class, Business Law is what you would want to take. This class can be used in real life and your own business should you decide to have one. Having your own business would be a real plus. It would allow you to have financial freedom. Getting back to the subject of Law classes, the next class would be to take Criminal Justice. Why you might ask would you want to take this class? Once you understand how this law applies to your life. It will open up your eyes to what your rights are and aren't. Criminal Justice Law is very black and white. There is no wiggle room for argument, unlike Business Law.
Psychology which is a class only taught at a College level or University. Why, it will help you understand dysfunctional relationships. You'll really start to understand the people in your life, be they family, friends or acquaintances. This is not saying that you have to like these people. It will give you some incite as to how they became the way they did. Marriage and Family is another class, it will explain a view of intimate relationships. Sort of the life cycle of a family.
Every adult should have their own money. No co-mingling of assets or money. This way if your in an abusive situation or relationship you will have an out. This gives you choices. Life should always be about choices. Otherwise, its sort of like living in a prison camp. People that have never experienced any sort of abuse in their lives might find this to be extreme. All I can say, is the reality of life is that there is no Prince or Princess that's going to sweep you off your feet and live a Happily Ever After. Great ending to a book, but not a reality as we know it.
Every person should step up and take responsibility for you life. You are responsible for your own happiness, not anyone else. Be sure to make your life the best life you can have.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
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www.ravenhawke.net
It feels very exciting and fresh!It almost has a crisp feel to it. I'm waiting for the next chapter to be written. Each one of us is part of history and yet we never think of it that way. We just go about our day. It seems that only when we read what has been written. What we've experienced that we question it and say how did they get that?
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Saturday, February 23, 2019
Friday, December 22, 2017
Owning the Season
Instead of being stressed out by the season. Take steps to be in control. Delegate the things that stress you out the most. If food or baking aren't you thing. Let someone that loves that stuff do it. If you a better planner than a doer. Do what you are best at! The holidays can be a stressful time. Different family dynamics. The holidays are supposed to be about family and friends; not the trivial stuff.
Every family or individuals situation is different. If money is tight, there are a lot of things that don't cost money to do. Have a movie or game night for the holidays. What better way to spend a day after a meal then enjoying each others company. If spending time with your family is stressful then get a bunch of friends together for the holidays.
Meal planning can be divided between friends and family. It's unrealistic to expect one person to do everything. Seniors can be hit the hardest. Depending on their financial situation. Some seniors live in poverty pretty much; because their medication eats up a majority of their income. Some medications can run as much as $300 or more a month for one medication. Medicare does not cover everything. Re-gifting things that you have never used might be an option if people are open to it.
The season is not about giving gifts although the retail industry would have you believe it. Some people like to give their time to shelters. If that's not your thing, then find a tradition of your own to start or just enjoy being with friends. Just remember there are no rules. Just take a break and relax.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
Every family or individuals situation is different. If money is tight, there are a lot of things that don't cost money to do. Have a movie or game night for the holidays. What better way to spend a day after a meal then enjoying each others company. If spending time with your family is stressful then get a bunch of friends together for the holidays.
Meal planning can be divided between friends and family. It's unrealistic to expect one person to do everything. Seniors can be hit the hardest. Depending on their financial situation. Some seniors live in poverty pretty much; because their medication eats up a majority of their income. Some medications can run as much as $300 or more a month for one medication. Medicare does not cover everything. Re-gifting things that you have never used might be an option if people are open to it.
The season is not about giving gifts although the retail industry would have you believe it. Some people like to give their time to shelters. If that's not your thing, then find a tradition of your own to start or just enjoy being with friends. Just remember there are no rules. Just take a break and relax.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
Saturday, October 14, 2017
Jealousy
We see it in the workplace and family environment. It is a cancer all on its own. It's petty and cruel.
It doesn't even have to justify itself, it just is! You sometimes see it going from generation to generation. Mother against daughter, daughter against mother. Sister against sister. Father against son and so on. It's a poison that knows no boundaries.
It destroys people and families. It is ego at part of its worst. It's wanting what others have just to take and not really caring about what it is? Sometimes that thing is relationships, possessions, people. Sometimes its just about being mean. It's not even like you can say its about how a person was raised or treated.
It's a very destructive emotion that will eventually consume it's host. It will leave them isolated and more alone. It becomes an unquenchable addiction for those that indulge it. It's one of those things, that even if they seek help from a professional. It might or might not help them find what they're starving for? It just depends on how real they can get with themselves.
What's even worse is that it's perpetuated as normal and acceptable on TV and in other types of media. Jealousy is normal to a point. When it start to become destructive to others and the self it is a sickness.
It's become this sick form of drama and entertainment. Only the thing is, there is nothing funny about it. Society as a whole is becoming more tragic with its insensitivity towards its fellow man. Somewhere along the way, it became acceptable to be cruel and blame victims.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
It doesn't even have to justify itself, it just is! You sometimes see it going from generation to generation. Mother against daughter, daughter against mother. Sister against sister. Father against son and so on. It's a poison that knows no boundaries.
It destroys people and families. It is ego at part of its worst. It's wanting what others have just to take and not really caring about what it is? Sometimes that thing is relationships, possessions, people. Sometimes its just about being mean. It's not even like you can say its about how a person was raised or treated.
It's a very destructive emotion that will eventually consume it's host. It will leave them isolated and more alone. It becomes an unquenchable addiction for those that indulge it. It's one of those things, that even if they seek help from a professional. It might or might not help them find what they're starving for? It just depends on how real they can get with themselves.
What's even worse is that it's perpetuated as normal and acceptable on TV and in other types of media. Jealousy is normal to a point. When it start to become destructive to others and the self it is a sickness.
It's become this sick form of drama and entertainment. Only the thing is, there is nothing funny about it. Society as a whole is becoming more tragic with its insensitivity towards its fellow man. Somewhere along the way, it became acceptable to be cruel and blame victims.
Penny J. (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
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Wednesday, December 16, 2015
Poverty
To each person that word means something different. It depends on the country you grew up in and how it was viewed by that culture. It has a smell, feeling and taste. To some it might be sadness, violence, insecurity?
It might feel like a simpler time, depending on your memories if they were happy or sad? Certain foods in an instance can trigger memories or feelings of happiness or sadness. The taste of certain foods are reminders as well. Those that are visual, will find things that annoy them on sight.
These reminders can be just enough incentive to make sure that we never go back to a time like that without a fight. Here's the funny part, poverty can be a person growing up in a middle class home. It's all about our frame of reference.
To some people poverty is about money. To some it's about not having enough family or friends. See it's all very abstract. That's why logic isn't always the truth. Poverty can be synonymous with stress, pain, shame, violence and the list can go on.
Some of this is brought about by constantly comparing our lives to others. Some of it is just a brutal reality check when whats going out is more than whats coming in. Some of it happens, when things are beyond our control. For some this will be a temporary stop on the journey of life and others will feel like their life has hit the longest drought on journey.
Others make a game out of it. They have learned how to make it work for them and content with what they have and no intention of changing themselves. While others look at it as something dirty and abhorant and can't find ways fast enough to dig themselves out of it.
The important part about these journeys is not to Judge yourself but try to reasses what you've learned and see if different choices will change the results?
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
It might feel like a simpler time, depending on your memories if they were happy or sad? Certain foods in an instance can trigger memories or feelings of happiness or sadness. The taste of certain foods are reminders as well. Those that are visual, will find things that annoy them on sight.
These reminders can be just enough incentive to make sure that we never go back to a time like that without a fight. Here's the funny part, poverty can be a person growing up in a middle class home. It's all about our frame of reference.
To some people poverty is about money. To some it's about not having enough family or friends. See it's all very abstract. That's why logic isn't always the truth. Poverty can be synonymous with stress, pain, shame, violence and the list can go on.
Some of this is brought about by constantly comparing our lives to others. Some of it is just a brutal reality check when whats going out is more than whats coming in. Some of it happens, when things are beyond our control. For some this will be a temporary stop on the journey of life and others will feel like their life has hit the longest drought on journey.
Others make a game out of it. They have learned how to make it work for them and content with what they have and no intention of changing themselves. While others look at it as something dirty and abhorant and can't find ways fast enough to dig themselves out of it.
The important part about these journeys is not to Judge yourself but try to reasses what you've learned and see if different choices will change the results?
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Friday, September 9, 2011
Sabotage
I always find it interesting that when we reflect on the things of the past; its like this giant light bulb moment. We realize the people that we trust sometimes need to earn that right. Just because they're your family doesn't mean that they get a free pass.
It's only after we review their behavior that we realize that they aren't people to be blindly trusted. That the moments that we worked so hard for are tainted by their actions. Sometimes these are moments in our life that we can't just shrug off and get back.
They might be moments that we traditionally memorialize with pictures. Once those picture moments are gone they can't be reclaimed. Just like we need to weed our life of friends and acquaintances; sometimes we need to weed them of family members that are destructive to our accomplishments.
Once we become rid of the sabotage to our lives, it's quite amazing what we can accomplish and that we start to believe more in ourselves with out others doubts crowding into our shining moments. We begin to fly and trust in our own successes; this is not ego but self-esteem and confidence.
When you become self-confident, you want to help others try to fly. You do not view others with suspicion. You cheer others victories! There is none of the petty jealousy to taint those precious moments of pride!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
It's only after we review their behavior that we realize that they aren't people to be blindly trusted. That the moments that we worked so hard for are tainted by their actions. Sometimes these are moments in our life that we can't just shrug off and get back.
They might be moments that we traditionally memorialize with pictures. Once those picture moments are gone they can't be reclaimed. Just like we need to weed our life of friends and acquaintances; sometimes we need to weed them of family members that are destructive to our accomplishments.
Once we become rid of the sabotage to our lives, it's quite amazing what we can accomplish and that we start to believe more in ourselves with out others doubts crowding into our shining moments. We begin to fly and trust in our own successes; this is not ego but self-esteem and confidence.
When you become self-confident, you want to help others try to fly. You do not view others with suspicion. You cheer others victories! There is none of the petty jealousy to taint those precious moments of pride!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Family
Family can mean different things to different people. To some it is the actual family your are born into; to others it means people that are of your own choosing.
The Holidays seem to bring out the best and the worst in these domestic units. It's almost like Jeckly & Hyde come to life. I'm not going to continue to write some sappy drivel about loving them anyway. That simply wouldn't be honoring yourself.
What I do propose is to pick through the ones that simply get on your nerves beyond reason and not answering the phone when they call. It will be a win for you, and it becomes a win for them learning to stand on their own two feet.
This is not to be mean. Some family members grew up in an era where it was simply exceptable to be verbally abusive. They call it that now but it was never addressed in their time. They just knew that when they were around people like that they didn't like them very much. This is one way of breaking a cycle by not pointing fingers and telling your relatives that they're abusive and need therapy.
This will only bring on a whole new argument in the family drama. After all who needs more drama in their life. If you wanted that you could simply watch TV if that is actually being watched any more. It starts to make what family functions you do attend a little more enjoyable. Believe it or not you'll actually start to feel more calmer by not having to deal with certain family members.
These are only suggestions. You have to take back what you perceive as your family hamony however you see best. For those of us that have decided to throw the whole lot out and start fresh with people we consider family. We've already found our little peace of heaven. Hopefully this will make you laugh. If not you might need to relax more.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
The Holidays seem to bring out the best and the worst in these domestic units. It's almost like Jeckly & Hyde come to life. I'm not going to continue to write some sappy drivel about loving them anyway. That simply wouldn't be honoring yourself.
What I do propose is to pick through the ones that simply get on your nerves beyond reason and not answering the phone when they call. It will be a win for you, and it becomes a win for them learning to stand on their own two feet.
This is not to be mean. Some family members grew up in an era where it was simply exceptable to be verbally abusive. They call it that now but it was never addressed in their time. They just knew that when they were around people like that they didn't like them very much. This is one way of breaking a cycle by not pointing fingers and telling your relatives that they're abusive and need therapy.
This will only bring on a whole new argument in the family drama. After all who needs more drama in their life. If you wanted that you could simply watch TV if that is actually being watched any more. It starts to make what family functions you do attend a little more enjoyable. Believe it or not you'll actually start to feel more calmer by not having to deal with certain family members.
These are only suggestions. You have to take back what you perceive as your family hamony however you see best. For those of us that have decided to throw the whole lot out and start fresh with people we consider family. We've already found our little peace of heaven. Hopefully this will make you laugh. If not you might need to relax more.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Bear Traps
Whenever I encounter jerks. I just let them talk. I know it won't take long for them to open their mouths and insert both feet. Sometimes their family members or co-workers. No matter who they are they usually succeed in showing they're ignorance. Their attempt to one-up you usually results in having egg all over their face. When the train wreck is over I just smile : ) They have succeeded at doing to themselves what they were trying to do to you. The Universe has such a sick sense of humor. Just but sick!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
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Monday, January 18, 2010
Family
Recently, I had a family member come into town unexpectedly. I had the best time in a long time with them. I got to appreciate the time spent with them. It was almost like savoring a fine chocolate. We had fun and did things. I hadn't seen them in almost 5 yrs.
It was less hussle and bussle. I actually didn't have to worry about my schedule like I usually did before. I actually got to enjoy their company. I don't think, I'd had truly this much fun with them since about the '70's. It's interesting how life or I really should say work tends to make us choose between it or family.
In other cultures, I don't think they let work intrude this much in their lives. Here it starts out by choosing which funerals we will attend? Like somehow it's more justifiable to attend closer family funerals than say a cousins funeral. I hope that as time goes by that I'm always able to keep family close instead of at a distance.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
It was less hussle and bussle. I actually didn't have to worry about my schedule like I usually did before. I actually got to enjoy their company. I don't think, I'd had truly this much fun with them since about the '70's. It's interesting how life or I really should say work tends to make us choose between it or family.
In other cultures, I don't think they let work intrude this much in their lives. Here it starts out by choosing which funerals we will attend? Like somehow it's more justifiable to attend closer family funerals than say a cousins funeral. I hope that as time goes by that I'm always able to keep family close instead of at a distance.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net
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