Cleaning Up Your Life

When you take a look at your life, where are you feeling so-so? Is it the people in your life? Relationships in general? Your work life? Your home? Where is the balance off? Do you have lots of drama in your life or is it nice and calm. These are nice ways to gage here there is balance and where is it off.

By paying attention to whats causing you stress, you can start to dig in and make small or big changes. If you never take time for yourself, you might be exhausted. Make sure that your taking time for yourself. It's okay to be selfish with your time. It's about creating more balance in your life so you can relax and play. Less stress is always a good thing. It allows you to get a decent nights sleep. If your dreading going to work every day. It's time to look at why? Is it the work? People? Once you can identify your stressors, it makes it easier to make some changes.

Be sure you set boundaries with your time. This is so you can feel whole as a person. It's one way to have less messes landing on your life. Do you even know what makes you happy or excited to get up in the morning? How's your relationship with yourself? If you don't even know who you are any more. That's a big clue to start your work with getting to know you.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net

Are You Happy or Stressed Out?

If your continually having dreams of dread before your have to return to work the next day? Sunday night is usually the most telling. It's that sense of dread that slowly starts to build up, then by Sunday night you could almost cut it with a knife. It might be time to take stock of what makes you happy and what's stressing your out?

Is it the work itself? Your co-workers? The environment? Start to make some changes in your life. Once you've made those changes. See how things feel? Are you happier or still stressed out. By slowly pin pointing what is making your happy and what is not. You will be taking steps to have more control of your own life.

Pay attention to what is relaxing and enjoyable to you. Not everyone likes to hangout with people. Does this make you anti-social? No it just means that those types of activities are not relaxing to you. Do certain people stress you out and other people don't. It might be time to find out who your tribe is! Some people are extroverts (they get energy by being around people). Introverts get exhausted being around people all the time. Some people are in the middle and need some down time and some time being around crowds.

Are you a workaholic and need to start  taking scheduled relaxation time, so you can have more work life balance in your life. Sometimes we get so used to being a hamster on the wheel that we don't know what it actually feels like to relax.

By turning off the news and cell phones, it is a step to reclaiming your personal time. Caller ID is the best source for screening your calls. It's always a good thing to stop answering your phone and start to learn to tune out time wasters. Some are people, telemarketers. Boundaries are a good thing to establish, it is a good way to re stake your claim to your personal time. You never need to apologize for being protective of your down time.

Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net

The Most Intimate Journey

One of the best journeys you will have is getting to know yourself. Often people will say, well I'm just me.
What exactly does that mean? Most women, haven't a clue on how to answer that question. It isn't until they're married and finding themselves unhappy with they're lives. Not exactly sure where in they're lives, they aren't happy? They start to feel like they aren't even a person? Like they've some how become an accessory.

Others have fallen into the trap, where they believe that it's the responsibility of their spouse to make them happy. Which is like some story that's been perpetuated by our society. It's only when women take the time to get to know themselves on all levels. Not allowing family or friends or even spouses to judge them. That they start to find out they're likes and dislikes. They stop trying to please other people and worrying about other people's opinions that they start to grow and learn more about themselves.

They start to learn that maybe they want to be known by their name instead of Mrs so-and-so or as someone's wife. Once we fully become whole, we bring much more to the table in a marriage or career or to even our own business. This myth that your partner makes you a whole person is just that a myth. Even they need to be whole within themselves to be truly happy.

Where we got this idea that its anyone's job to make us happy? I have no idea, but people need to actually start to participate in their lives instead of trying to put it on remote control. This how our lives suddenly start to become derailed. This is also how people lose control of their finances. Only you know what makes you happy or unhappy! Sometimes we like to mix it up and add some Drama, because maybe we're bored!

It's also okay to not be nice all the time. We have emotions for a reason, think of it as a color pallet that you can play with. Sometimes, you might want to be horrible instead of sugary sweet with everyone. By allowing your emotions to not be judged all the time. Your more likely to not have a callousal explosive melt down.

Your less likely to find that a toddler has taken control of your emotions and your having a melt down at a business meeting. When we find and know ourselves, we start to get this inner calm and peace that we've been searching for most of our lives. It starts to reel in those emotional roller coaster moments in our lives.
We start to have more control and direction in our lives. Instead of life happening to us. We are happening to life!

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
http://www.ravenhawke.net
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info@ravenhawke.net

The Best Romance

The Best Romance

Wouldn't it be great if Parents taught their kids to get to know themselves.

I think it's still interesting that there are so many children's books where they push the happily ever after thing complete with Miss Charming or Mr. Charming.

This is one of the reasons we have so many divorces in this country. Most people have no clue who they are?

They don't know if they're even happy?

They think that being happy is having another person in your life? It's one of those Card moments.

People have never been told the truth that you can still be lonely with another person.

So they go rushing into another relationship, like this will finally be the answer.

It's only after several of these failed results we learn that we need to actually take some time out for ourselves and get to know us. It's like secretly we don't like ourselves. We're so afraid that if we get to know ourselves, we think we won't like us.

Once you take the time to get to know yourself. You find more inner peace and calmness than we ever imagined. Even if you find things that you don't like about yourself. You can choose to change or not. After all it is your choice.

You start to learn your likes and dislikes.

You learn what people you like or don't.

Your life starts to change and you start to take back your power.

Amazing things start to happen, you become more happy and less angry.

You also find out if you hate your job or even like the people you work with?

You start to take adult steps to make the changes in the areas of your life that make you unhappy. Instead of being angry and thinking that your miserable so your going to make everyone around you miserable!

Once you've discovered the greatest romance with yourself. You start to smile more and have more positive things happening to you.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN,USA)

www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net