Clearing the Clutter

One of the easiest ways of getting rid of clutter is taking bite size bites. You can start by working on surface areas. If you have a desk you can decide which way you want to work on clearing it. You can either start on the left or the right.

You can start with the small pile first  or the big pile it's all up to you. You can also leave a post it note on the pile that you just went through. This way you know if it needs to be filed or if it can be thrown away. If it's filing, make a game out of it. Get a timer and set it for 5 minutes. This way if it's not your favorite task you don't have to spend a lot of time doing it.

If you like incense you can either light incense or candles or both to make this a more enjoyable task and put on music that is fun for you. The point is to make it fun not a chore.  Clearing the clutter in one room can be done in a week. Don't tackle a room in a day, if this is something that you hate. Commit at least 15 to 20 minutes a day to a task that isn't your favorite.

Most people get over whelmed and become frustrated. By spending smaller amounts of time on these tasks it helps to make it less of a chore to do. Don't tackle more than one room at a time. You can also divide the room into sections if this helps you. The point is to help you make progress in a room with less frustration.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
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Family

Family can mean different things to different people. To some it is the actual family your are born into; to others it means people that are of your own choosing.

The Holidays seem to bring out the best and the worst in these domestic units. It's almost like Jeckly & Hyde come to life. I'm not going to continue to write some sappy drivel about loving them anyway. That simply wouldn't be honoring yourself.

What I do propose is to pick through the ones that simply get on your nerves beyond reason and not answering the phone when they call. It will be a win for you, and it becomes a win for them learning to stand on their own two feet.

This is not to be mean. Some family members grew up in an era where it was simply exceptable to be verbally abusive. They call it that now but it was never addressed in their time. They just knew that when they were around people like that they didn't like them very much. This is one way of breaking a cycle by not pointing fingers and telling your relatives that they're abusive and need therapy.

This will only bring on a whole new argument in the family drama. After all who needs more drama in their life. If you wanted that you could simply watch TV if that is actually being watched any more. It starts to make what family functions you do attend a little more enjoyable. Believe it or not you'll actually start to feel more calmer by not having to deal with certain family members.

These are only suggestions. You have to take back what you perceive as your family hamony however you see best. For those of us that have decided to throw the whole lot out and start fresh with people we consider family. We've already found our little peace of heaven. Hopefully this will make you laugh. If not you might need to relax more.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net