One of the best journeys you will have is getting to know yourself. Often people will say, well I'm just me.
What exactly does that mean? Most women, haven't a clue on how to answer that question. It isn't until they're married and finding themselves unhappy with they're lives. Not exactly sure where in they're lives, they aren't happy? They start to feel like they aren't even a person? Like they've some how become an accessory.
Others have fallen into the trap, where they believe that it's the responsibility of their spouse to make them happy. Which is like some story that's been perpetuated by our society. It's only when women take the time to get to know themselves on all levels. Not allowing family or friends or even spouses to judge them. That they start to find out they're likes and dislikes. They stop trying to please other people and worrying about other people's opinions that they start to grow and learn more about themselves.
They start to learn that maybe they want to be known by their name instead of Mrs so-and-so or as someone's wife. Once we fully become whole, we bring much more to the table in a marriage or career or to even our own business. This myth that your partner makes you a whole person is just that a myth. Even they need to be whole within themselves to be truly happy.
Where we got this idea that its anyone's job to make us happy? I have no idea, but people need to actually start to participate in their lives instead of trying to put it on remote control. This how our lives suddenly start to become derailed. This is also how people lose control of their finances. Only you know what makes you happy or unhappy! Sometimes we like to mix it up and add some Drama, because maybe we're bored!
It's also okay to not be nice all the time. We have emotions for a reason, think of it as a color pallet that you can play with. Sometimes, you might want to be horrible instead of sugary sweet with everyone. By allowing your emotions to not be judged all the time. Your more likely to not have a callousal explosive melt down.
Your less likely to find that a toddler has taken control of your emotions and your having a melt down at a business meeting. When we find and know ourselves, we start to get this inner calm and peace that we've been searching for most of our lives. It starts to reel in those emotional roller coaster moments in our lives.
We start to have more control and direction in our lives. Instead of life happening to us. We are happening to life!
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
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