Surviving Abuse

People who have gone through abuse as a child or an adult will have to face the healing process eventually. Some people label this PTSD or Bi-Polar. This happens to even members of our military. The healing process is unique to each individual. That's because each person has different breaking point. In some cases, it fragments the soul of the individual. Part of this process is releasing shame. Depending on the age of the individual who experienced the abuse and the type of abuse. There is psychological abuse (Mind Games) or in the military a psychological warfare!

Sexual or physical abuse (battery). These are all the ugly crimes that are committed by our society. Rich, poor, middle class it does not matter. It is a sick tradition that is passed down from the church, military, your own family or community. Some people can deal with this in a support group. Some need a one on one session with a therapist. Others try to deal with it on their own terms. It is about facing your own demons on your own terms. It is about taking back your power and feeling through the many layers of pain, sorrow and anger! There will be good days and bad. Once you've taken back your power. You might feel at peace. It's about taking back your power and not hurting yourself or others.

If your constantly feeling triggers to situations that you experienced as a child or an adult. Try to get counseling so you can try to diffuse the situation. Counselors will usually have tools to help you take back your personal power so you have control in your life again. Past life experiences can be similar to this too. Depending on how you died and if you experienced anger when you died. When you are fully healed. You can be in the same room with this person and feel nothing. This is not about forgiveness. I don't subscribe to that bullshit. Just be real with yourself.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
info@ravenhawke.net
www.ravenhawke.net

Boundaries

Once you've implemented boundaries in your relationships. It's interesting to see who starts to get offended. It's because suddenly, your not allowing people to make you their personal dumping ground. You've stood up for your personal rights and said enough is enough.

Relatives will usually be the first to get bent out of shape. It's usually interesting to see who goes and who is left standing so to speak. It's almost like becoming a sovereign country. There are suddenly rules! The antics that go on in cartoons such as Donald duck are no longer tolerated in personal relationships or personal space.

Sometimes you have to feel your way through the garbage to find yourself and your space. Many people don't even know themselves, they've been pleasing others for so long. When you start to stand-up for yourself it might feel like uncharted waters. You start to wonder what is normal? or normal for you with out the continual drama?

That nice calm that finally settles over you can suddenly become an Oasis. That breathing room that you've been craving forever. Friends will either join your team by being supportive or they'll drift away. As they drift away, a sudden calm will start to settle over you.

Take some time to enjoy this new feeling. As it becomes more and more comfortable. The new you will emerge and the people pleasing will stop. You will no longer allow yourself to be taken prisoner in your new relationships.

You start to find out who you really are. It can almost be like awakening from a dream. Here's a toast to boundaries in your life. After all it's there for your enjoyment not your misery!

Penny J. (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc
www.ravenhawke.net
info@ravenhawke.net