Once you've implemented boundaries in your relationships. It's interesting to see who starts to get offended. It's because suddenly, your not allowing people to make you their personal dumping ground. You've stood up for your personal rights and said enough is enough.
Relatives will usually be the first to get bent out of shape. It's usually interesting to see who goes and who is left standing so to speak. It's almost like becoming a sovereign country. There are suddenly rules! The antics that go on in cartoons such as Donald duck are no longer tolerated in personal relationships or personal space.
Sometimes you have to feel your way through the garbage to find yourself and your space. Many people don't even know themselves, they've been pleasing others for so long. When you start to stand-up for yourself it might feel like uncharted waters. You start to wonder what is normal? or normal for you with out the continual drama?
That nice calm that finally settles over you can suddenly become an Oasis. That breathing room that you've been craving forever. Friends will either join your team by being supportive or they'll drift away. As they drift away, a sudden calm will start to settle over you.
Take some time to enjoy this new feeling. As it becomes more and more comfortable. The new you will emerge and the people pleasing will stop. You will no longer allow yourself to be taken prisoner in your new relationships.
You start to find out who you really are. It can almost be like awakening from a dream. Here's a toast to boundaries in your life. After all it's there for your enjoyment not your misery!
Penny J. (MN, USA)
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