A Prison of Our Own Making

Some people believe that a prison has bars and it is a place of punishment. Sometimes its not just criminals that are in prison. Sometimes very good people, think that if they do something for themselves it will be a bad thing.

I witnessed many people that stay in a job that makes them miserable because somewhere along the way they lost their own self worth or never had it. This also happens with marriages as well. Our society is so driven by guilt that is it a wonder the high suicide rate.

When we sacrifice ourselves in such a way, our souls start to slowly die. It is a touchier worse than the death. It is amazing the norms that we've excepted to fit into what we call society.

The question is who decided these norms? Is it cultural? Religion based? Why is it we feel that we must fit in so badly. Was it our parents? Their parents? When is it we finally have the right to decide for ourselves?

I have watched people stay together out of obligation. Each in their own personal prison. One thinking they have to stay because they have a handicap that they can't be independent. The other refusing to allow the person with the handicap to become independent. One begins to wonder who is the one with the real handicap.

Only after the death of one of them is the other finally free and independent. So much time wasted, that could have been better used for happiness. We all are capable of learning and changing. We have to first choose too.

These oppressive relationships that hold us down serve no purpose. Do we really have to hit rock bottom to see that we are capable of so much more. I once met a person that said, Rock Bottom was death. I beg to differ. Rock bottom, is that invisible line that once someone in our life crosses it there is no going back. We each have a line of how much we will put up with. Once someone crosses it. We are done with them or we will change. 

We are all adults that can choose for ourselves. We must reclaim our personal power or lose a piece of who we are bit by bit.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)

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A Soul's Perspective

One of the greatest things is when you stop getting caught up in the drama.
It's much easier to be a soul and than a human being. You don't have to worry about makeup, clothes, haircuts, etc. For one you don't have a body to take care of. You are this beautiful, ball of bright light. This is what the soul looks like.

Being human, we get caught up in all the petty b.s. We worry about what other people are doing. We become this controlling monster. Our egos run all over the place. We forget what is even important. We let other people tell us how to live and suddenly become miserable and depressed and wonder why.

No one can ever live up to another's expectations. That's because your not being real or being you. When you stop being you, a part of your soul starts to die. When you start pushing people that make you feel like crap out of your life; your soul starts to feel better. You are starting to be authentic. You start to feel better about yourself and supportive of your own dreams and others.

Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN,USA)
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