I witnessed many people that stay in a job that makes them miserable because somewhere along the way they lost their own self worth or never had it. This also happens with marriages as well. Our society is so driven by guilt that is it a wonder the high suicide rate.
When we sacrifice ourselves in such a way, our souls start to slowly die. It is a touchier worse than the death. It is amazing the norms that we've excepted to fit into what we call society.
The question is who decided these norms? Is it cultural? Religion based? Why is it we feel that we must fit in so badly. Was it our parents? Their parents? When is it we finally have the right to decide for ourselves?
I have watched people stay together out of obligation. Each in their own personal prison. One thinking they have to stay because they have a handicap that they can't be independent. The other refusing to allow the person with the handicap to become independent. One begins to wonder who is the one with the real handicap.
Only after the death of one of them is the other finally free and independent. So much time wasted, that could have been better used for happiness. We all are capable of learning and changing. We have to first choose too.
These oppressive relationships that hold us down serve no purpose. Do we really have to hit rock bottom to see that we are capable of so much more. I once met a person that said, Rock Bottom was death. I beg to differ. Rock bottom, is that invisible line that once someone in our life crosses it there is no going back. We each have a line of how much we will put up with. Once someone crosses it. We are done with them or we will change.
We are all adults that can choose for ourselves. We must reclaim our personal power or lose a piece of who we are bit by bit.
Penny J.
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
Raven Hawke, Llc (MN, USA)
